How To Be A Cool Guy: 23 Tips To Be Cooler (As a Man)

Are you looking for ways you can become a cool guy?

Are you wondering how to be a cool guy?

In this article, you’re going to discover 23 tips you can implement today to be cooler as a man.

The small adjustments we’re going to learn about here can make a big difference in the way others perceive you (and also in the way you feel about yourself).

It’ll help you feel more confident, be more successful with women and people in general, and feel more in control of your social life.

➡️ If you haven’t done so yet: take a look at this article in which I show you how you can master women in a way that will turn them on.

In other words, how to dominate women to make them wet with desire.

And NOT just in bed: you’re going to implement these small actions in other contexts and environments, be it after an approach, on a date, at a party, in your everyday life with your girlfriend or wife (or with your ex), and more… so that the woman you like sees you as a powerful dominant male who is able to satisfy her deepest desires and take her to seventh heaven.

...which is what is going to make her want to sleep with you…and even chase you.

I’ll also share with you some traps to avoid so that you don’t come off as a needy guy or as a guy who looks like he’s trying too hard.

Some of the tips below require a bit of work before they can be fully mastered, while others can be put into practice much more easily.

Without further ado, let’s dive in.

1. Don’t be needy:

To be a cool guy, don’t be needy.

Don’t look for others’ approval or validation.

Not being needy allows you to live your life on your own terms.

It allows you to make the right choices.

It allows you to move in the right direction and not lose time over things that don’t really matter.

2. Self-confidence:

Confident men are cooler.

They have more success with people, especially with women.

Guys who lack self-confidence, on the other hand, usually come off as much less cool.

Guys who have no love for themselves aren’t cool.

They don’t have much success with people, particularly women.

Do this test:

Try to remember the last time you came across a cool guy who was terribly lacking in self-confidence.

Pretty hard, isn’t it?

Self-confident men, provided that they’re able to bring positive energy to others, always appear pretty cool.

And this is regardless of their level of self-confidence: super-confident and narcissistic guys are no exception. We could even say that narcissistic guys attract women even more.

Now, of course, this is not to say that you should become a self-satisfied narcissist, totally full of himself, but you should just raise your level of self-confidence if this area is a bit weak.

3. A sense of humor:

As you’ve probably noticed, men who know how to make people laugh generally have more success.

A guy who can make us laugh is a guy whose company we value. He’s a guy with whom we want to be.

Your sense of humor is a great tool to generate positive emotions in people you’re interacting with, especially in women.

Read: How To Be Funny To A Girl

A good sense of humor also allows you to demonstrate social intelligence. Which is a particularly attractive quality, since it’s usually closely linked to high social status.

However, as you might suspect, your sense of humor should be used in a socially calibrated manner. It should be used with some finesse.

If your humor is rough and not calibrated, you’re likely to come off as a weirdo or as a low status guy.

And instead of attracting people, it’s going to do just the opposite: to push them away.

It’ll make you look like a guy who lacks social intelligence. Which is pretty bad, especially when it comes to picking up girls.

Your sense of humor should raise your game, not lower it.

4. Knowledge:

Guys who can share interesting things and knowledge with others are usually perceived as cool guys.

Doing so suggests that you have a certain level of intelligence, which is an attractive personality trait, especially when it comes to attracting women.

It also allows you to inject more emotions into your conversations, which again is pretty useful when it comes to attracting girls.

In other words, it makes you interesting.

People seek your company because they know they’ll have a good time with you and that they won’t get bored.

Hence you should have an interest in working on your general knowledge and in living experiences you’ll be able to talk about.

5. Personal hygiene:

It seems obvious, but still, I can’t not mention it.

If your personal hygiene is poor, it’s naturally going to push people away, especially women.

Bad body odor, greasy hair, bad smells…all drag you down, highly undermining your interactions with people, and, again, especially your interactions with women.

Not only it will push people away at the moment, but it will also lead them to see you as a low-status guy.

Whereas by taking care of yourself, you’ll be more appealing to others and they’ll see you as more high status.

That being said, there’s no need to make too big an effort: a clean shirt, a nice haircut, a drop of cologne, and a fresh smell and you’re good to go.

6. Fitness:

Needless to say that if you’re highly overweight, you’ll appear less cool.

Same thing if you’re skinny.

A strong and muscular body is much more cool.

So start working out and eating better.

7. Clothing:

Your clothing can either raise your game or lower it.

The way you dress directly reflects your social status (at least that’s how it works in people’s mind).

Understand this:

Your clothing is the first thing people see when they meet you (with your body language).

Thus, it’s the first element they have to form an opinion of you.

It’s the first thing they’re going to use to judge your social status.

They’re also going to use it to get an idea of your way of thinking and your social intelligence.

A guy who dresses poorly or inadequately is likely to be seen as lacking social intelligence.

He’ll be seen as a low-status guy.

So, if you dress improperly, the first impression you give to people can greatly suffer from it.

And you know how long those impressions can last.

A solid fashion sense can help a lot when it comes to attracting women.

They’ll behave better and even give you genuine compliments.

So, if your clothing isn’t solid enough yet, it’s time for you to build up a quality masculine wardrobe.

Related: How To Become More Masculine

The goal here is not to become a fashion victim; far from it. It’s just to have some quality clothing items which fit you well and which you can wear on a day-to-day basis.

8. A good quality of life:

A good job, a high paycheck, a good level of education…allows you to be cooler.

They especially help you become more appealing to women (yes, women are all more or less materialistic and venal, although they won’t admit it; actually, many of them don’t even realize it).

That being said, it doesn’t mean that you must have an awesome job or a big salary to be cool or to hook up with the girls you want (more on that below).

But a good quality of life is always a plus.

It’s often a reflection of your social intelligence and social status.

It shows that you’re able to take on many responsibilities.

It shows a certain level of maturity.

9. A social life:

To be cool, get a life.

Don’t be this asocial guy who doesn’t have any friends or doesn’t do anything interesting.

When you lead an interesting life, people—especially women—notice it.

And they want to join you.

They want to be a part of this life.

A man who leads a full life is cool.

10. A good mood:

You’ll agree with me when I say that a man who is constantly in a bad mood is not cool.

On the contrary, a man who is often in a good mood and who communicates this good mood to others is much more cool.

And this is normal: people are much more willing to hang out with men who make them feel good instead of men who make them feel miserable.

Hence you have an interest in improving your mood and communicating more positivity.

Sure, this is not always easy, especially in certain contexts and environments, but with some practice and work on yourself, you can do it.

11. Being more interested in others than in yourself:

Wondering how to be a really cool guy?

A quick way to get people to perceive you as a cool guy is to be more interested in them than you are in yourself.

We always find people who genuinely pay attention to us and take an interest in what we’re doing to be pretty cool.

Firstly, because the most interesting topic for most people is themselves.

Secondly, because since most people are mostly interested in themselves, they don’t often come across someone who’s genuinely more interested in them than in themselves.

So when you talk to someone, instead of trying to make the conversation about you, make it about them.

Instead of trying to look interesting and bragging about your life’s achievements, focus on what the other person has to say.

Make sure that THEY feel interesting in your eyes.

Make sure that THEY reveal some interesting stuff about them, some things that make them look good.

12. The ability to make compliments:

When you compliment someone, they feel valued.

This advice is particularly effective when pleasing and attracting girls.

It makes her feel positive emotions. She feels better. You just made her day.

Men who know how to make compliments are often perceived as cooler by other people.

It can be all sorts of compliments: compliments on personality, on achievements, on looks…

When you make a compliment, you communicate positive energy.

You bring value.

And men who bring value are cool.

13. Doing things other people are afraid of:

When you see a guy who can do things you’re afraid of, he instantly seems pretty cool.

It can be many things:

Being able to approach women you don’t know, having the guts to stand up for yourself in case of aggression, speaking in public, embarking on a risky project, etc.

Most people don’t do what they’re afraid of.

And in many cases, it prevents them from doing what they really want to in life.

And when they see a guy who has the ability to overcome his fears and take action, they think it’s cool (and it actually is).

So, if you’re not yet in the habit of doing things you’re a little afraid of on a regular basis, here’s another reason to do it.

That’s how real alpha men are living their life (more on that here).

14. Being responsible:

Be responsible.

When you take full responsibility for your actions (or your inaction), you have no one to blame but yourself.

As a result, you cease to blame others.

You can only blame yourself.

And when you do this, you start to behave in a more solid way.

You start to adopt the right state of mind.

A state of mind that is much more cool.

People realize that they can rely on you, and they deal with you the way they deal with a solid man.

15. Not changing your opinions to suit others:

Some guys think that in order to be cool, they should agree with everyone.

They think they should have the same views as others.

As a result, they constantly change their opinions.

And in the end, they cease to be themselves.

They think they’re being cool when they’re not.

The cool guy doesn’t change his opinions to suit others.

He is confident in his views.

He cherishes his character and his authenticity, and thus stays true to himself, even when others may not like it.

It doesn’t mean that he never changes his opinions: he sometimes changes his opinion when it’s justified. But he doesn’t do it in order to look cool or to please others.

16. Not constantly complaining:

Guys who complain all the time are extremely boring.

They bring boredom and negativity in the interaction, and although it might be useful sometimes, more often than not it’s a pain in the ass.

Cool guys don’t complain.

They don’t focus on the negatives.

Instead, they focus on what needs to be done in order to move into the right direction.

This makes people much more willing to stick with them and follow them.

17. Having a purpose in life:

Having a purpose is definitely cool.

It gives you the energy and the will to take action. Every day.

It gives you a direction toward which move.

It gives you the will to live your life to the fullest.

On the other hand, guys who don’t have any goals in life are much less passionate.

They quickly end up being bored, even depressed.

And as you might guess, this is not cool.

So if you don’t have a purpose, find one.

Your purpose can change over time. What matters is just having one (or several).

18. Helping others:

People who offer their help or assistance when they can are cool.

You always appreciate it when a friend or acquaintance offers his help when needed.

Especially when he does it when you didn’t even ask for it.

And especially if he does it genuinely, not just to get some compliments or rewards for doing so.

A guy who offers his help without hoping for anything in return is pretty cool.

So when you see you can help someone (and if you are able to help), just do it without expecting recognition or reward.

19. Not taking others’ comments too personally:

If you want to be a cool guy, start by controlling yourself.

Start by controlling your emotions and how you react to others.

The guy who can’t control himself and who reacts too nervously to other people’s remarks or actions is not cool.

When you react too nervously or too aggressively to a comment or a remark, you reveal something:

You reveal that what this comment or remark is about is actually an issue for you.

That’s how an innocent remark made from someone else can lead you to reveal some psychological weaknesses about yourself.

This can be used against you by your enemies and lead other people to see you as insecure.

On the other hand, when you cease to take comments or remarks too personally, you look much more cool (and you actually are much more cool).

People know they can have fun with you, make jokes with you, tease you…and always receive a positive reaction (or at least not a negative one).

Read: How To Tease Someone

20. Bringing value to your community:

Guys who bring value to their community are not only cool, they are also pretty solid.

Making sure to solidify your community—relatives and friends—is something solid men do.

A man knows that he is highly vulnerable without his community.

A man who is alone cannot do much against other bonded and organized groups of men.

That’s why it is important for a man to be part of a strong group and to bring value to this group in order to solidify it.

21. Having a great vision:

Having a great vision for your future and the future or your tribe is something pretty cool.

It can help you motivate others, encourage them to join you and help you move toward this vision, and give you the energy to take action on a daily basis.

Men who accomplish great things often—if not always—have a vision of what they want to accomplish.

This vision is the reality they want to create.

They think about it every day, and it guides them in the right direction.

Related: How To Be Charismatic

22. Doing difficult things:

Guys who dare to do difficult things are pretty cool.

Most people don’t take action when the task is difficult.

They stick to easy things everybody can do.

But it’s precisely because some things are difficult that you should do them.

Since most people don’t dare to undertake difficult tasks, you can gain a lot just by doing those tasks.

It’s because it’s difficult that you should do it.

It’s because no one can do it that you must do it.

23. Always striving to improve:

Have a growth mindset.

Strive to always improve yourself.

Be it physically, mentally, socially, financially…

It will make you much more cool and attractive.

You’ll be cooler and cooler everyday.

[BONUS] Finding some chicks for your buddies:

As you can guess, if you help your buddies or acquaintances pick up chicks, they’ll find you pretty cool and will love hanging out with you.

There are various ways you can do this: by approaching women (in a club or at a party) and then introducing the group to your friends, by arranging a meeting between some of your female friends and your buddies (party, restaurant, bowling, etc.)

Men always appreciate guys who can help them meet other nice people, and even more when these people are beautiful women.

When you’re this kind of guy, you’re seen as a provider.

You bring value to others, and that’s really cool.

[MUST-READ] Be DOMINANT with Women: Know How to MASTER Them (In Everyday Life) to Make Them Fantasize About You

If you enjoyed this article (and even if you didn’t), you’ll love this other extensive post I recently published:

>> Be DOMINANT with Women: Know How to MASTER Them (In Everyday Life) to Make Them Fantasize About You

There’s something you need to understand:

Women want to be submissive.

They fantasize about sexual submission.

And when they meet a dominant man who has the potential to satisfy their submission fantasies, it makes them desire him intensely.

Sounds shocking or surprising to you?

Keep reading…

Today, you’re going to learn how to master women in a way that will turn them on.

You’re going to learn how to dominate women to make them wet with desire.

And NOT just in bed:

You’re going to implement this in other contexts and environments, be it after an approach, on a date, at a party, and more.

You’re going to implement this in your everyday life with the women you like so that they see you as a powerful dominant male who is able to satisfy their desires and take them to seventh heaven.

These actions you’re going to implement daily with the girls you want will lead them to see you as THE man to date.

You’ll stand out.

Women will see you as a potential lover and as a good lay (and that’s a bit of an understatement).

However, there are things you need to understand first.

You’ve got to be ready to try certain things that are a bit bold (more or less depending on the girl and the situation).

It's all there:

>> Be DOMINANT with Women: Know How to MASTER Them (In Everyday Life) to Make Them Fantasize About You

Stay solid,
Jack