When A Woman Goes Silent On You: 9 Reasons (+ 5 Things To Do)
When a woman goes silent on you, what does it mean?
What to do when a girl goes quiet on text?
Why is she quiet all of a sudden?
Whether we’re talking about radio silence (that is, no contact, be it over text or phone) or silence in a day-to-day relationship (at home, or when you come across each other), a woman’s silence can be disturbing.
You wonder what’s going on… If it’s because of something you did… How you could possibly fix things… Maybe to the point of going crazy about it.
What to do when a woman doesn’t talk anymore?
What could be the meaning of this silence?
That’s what we’re going to learn in this article.
Table of Contents
Why is she quiet: 9 potential causes
Let’s start by reviewing the possible reasons for this silence…with the different types of silence in women:
1. The silence of a hurt woman
For one reason or another, this woman is angry with you.
After an argument or a something she saw as an offense, she felt hurt.
So, she gives you the cold shoulder, she pouts.
Hence her silence.
A silence that can be either involuntary (she simply feels bad and does not want to talk to you)…
…or deliberate, with one or several of these goals in mind :
- to punish you (she wants to get back at you by spoiling the atmosphere, to make you feel bad)
- to make you understand that you did something wrong (in the case where she wants to give you a hard time for a clumsiness of yours that you weren’t aware of)
Here, you can interpret her silence as a punishment, or as a subtle way to make you understand that you screwed up.
Related: How To Get My Wife Back Emotionally
2. The silence of a woman in love
This woman has feelings for you (or a strong desire) and seeks to make herself more desirable in your eyes.
How?
By pretending not to be that interested, in order to make you want to chase her.
She doesn’t want you to see her as a girl who’s all over you, and thus lose interest in her, perceiving her as an easy prey.
As a result, she’s playing the decider by ignoring you.
Read: 42 Signs That A Girl Likes You
Or she’s deeply in love with you but wants to forget you, and thus cuts off all contact with you to make this easier (more on this below).
This feigned indifference can be expressed by a radio silence (she stops sending you messages for a while) or by a silence when you meet her in everyday life (she doesn’t talk to you anymore, she acts as if she hasn’t noticed you).
If this woman used to send you frequent signs of interest and then suddenly stopped talking to you, it could be the silence of a woman in love…
…unless you’ve made mistakes that caused her to lose her desire for you.
Which brings us to the next point…
3. The silence of the indifferent woman
This woman is not talking to you simply because she’s not interested in you (or no longer interested in you).
See also: If She Doesn’t Text Back Is She Not Interested?
Maybe she’s never been interested in you, or she was interested in you once but you made some mistakes killed her desire for you.
Maybe you behaved like a needy guy, which made her run away.
Or maybe you made a series of mistakes that made you look weak in her eyes.
The silence of this woman is then only the reflection of her indifference.
4. The radio silence of an ex
If your ex is suddenly quiet, there are 3 possible explanations:
- She is using radio silence as a strategy to win you back: she wants to put some distance between you and her in an attempt to make you miss her [Read: Why Is She Acting Distant All Of A Sudden]
- She wants to cut off all communication with you so that she can forget you more easily: the breakup was painful and she wants to move on as quickly as possible.
- She uses radio silence as a way to make you understand that your relationship with her is definitely over: she doesn’t want you to entertain any false illusions, thus she’s deliberately cold with you (to learn more about the signs a woman doesn’t want a relationship with you, go check out this post).
5. The silence of the shy woman
She may be a shy woman, who lacks self-confidence.
She is afraid of doing something wrong, and therefore prefers to keep quiet.
Or she simply doesn’t know what to say.
If she’s known to be an introvert, you may have the answer to your question.
Read: How To Know If A Shy Girl Likes You
6. The silence of the suspicious woman
This silence is typical of some women you’ve just met (for instance a woman you’ve just approached in the street).
She doesn’t know you, so she’s naturally suspicious of you.
She prefers to wait and see how things develop before getting involved in the conversation.
Will you inspire enough confidence in her to make her want to break the silence?
See also: 9 Signs She’s Not Interested In You
7. The silence of the woman who is testing you
A silence often used by seductive women, or by playful women.
She doesn’t say anything in order to see if it makes you panic, or for the pleasure of giving you a hard time.
Can she easily destabilize you? Or on the contrary are you a strong, unshakable man nothing can disturb?
8. The silence of the mistress
A radio silence from your lover can have several explanations, but one of the most common is this one:
Your mistress realizes that she’s falling in love with you and wants to put distance to protect herself.
She sees her relationship with you as an impossible love (because you’re already in a relationship, married, or clearly not looking for a serious relationship). So she wants to cut off contact so she doesn’t get more attached.
9. The silence of the tired (or stressed) woman
The silence of a woman can simply be explained by the fact that she’s not in the mood to talk.
She may be tired from her day.
Maybe she just wants to be left alone in order to rest.
That may be even more true if she’s an introvert (introverts recover by being alone, unlike extroverts, who recharge their batteries by interacting with others).
She may also be going through a rough patch and need time for herself. Or she may be experiencing some strong hormonal reactions (for example if she’s menstruating).
So much for the different ways of interpreting a woman’s silence.
These different possibilities are not mutually exclusive and some of them may overlap.
How to respond to a woman’s silence: 5 crucial tips
Whether this woman is your partner, your ex, or a girl you just met…
What behaviors should you avoid? What can you do to get her to break the silence?
Let’s dive in.
1. Don’t panic
As we’ve seen, the silence of this woman can have various causes.
Positive ones as well as negative ones.
If you start to panic, the girl will feel it, and as a result could perceive you as… :
- a man she can easily destabilize (and therefore as a weak, dominated man, which is the opposite of what she’s looking for in a sexual and romantic partner)
- a needy man, who desperately needs her attention (and therefore like a guy who’s all over her, which will make her want to run away)
So keep your cool.
Take a deep breath and calmly analyze the situation.
2. Don’t overwhelm her with questions
That’s a common mistake men make with women who goes suddenly silent.
They start questioning them, asking what’s wrong, why they don’t talk to them, if they did something wrong…
Not only are they unlikely to get a sincere answer from the girl (unless they’re dealing with a girl who’s giving them the cold shoulder, and even then), but the biggest problem is this:
By questioning the girl in this way, they come across as needy, insecure guys who are afraid of losing her affection.
Which is one of the most effective ways to kill a woman’s desire for you.
This mistake can be fatal if this woman’s silence is due to a sudden loss of desire for you.
Here’s why:
When a woman loses her desire for you, it’s often because you’ve shown too much interest.
She feels that it’s in the bag, that you will always be there for her…
There is no more mystery about your intentions, no more suspense…
You stop being a challenge for her, and she gets bored.
She stops feeling desire for you.
So don’t fall into the trap of asking one question after another to find out why she’s not talking to you.
You’ll only make the situation worse.
3. Don’t be desperate for a connection
The other mistake you should avoid at all costs is the one that consists in trying to create a rapprochement.
Especially if she’s silent because her desire for you has decreased.
The more you try to get closer to her, the more you come across as a guy who’s all over her, demanding her affection, and the more you kill desire.
Which will drive her further away.
Related: Should I Ignore Her If She Ignores Me
4. Identify the situation you’re in
Before you take any action to get her to talk, ask yourself what kind of situation you’re in.
Carefully review the different possibilities listed above, and try to determine which one (or ones) best fit(s) your situation.
There may be more than one, but what we’re interested in here is the underlying source:
- a loss of desire for you
- some resentment or dissatisfaction with you
- a desire to seduce you
- some distrust…or a desire to test you
- a desire to cut ties with you for good
- a cause external to you
Ask yourself what is the underlying source of this girl’s silence.
Then go to the next step…
5. Take action (or not) accordingly
Now that you have identified the underlying source of this woman’s silence, it’s time to choose the right strategy.
• If it is a desire-related issue (she has become indifferent), you must not accentuate it: answer her silence with silence. This will intrigue her and make her think that you may not be that interested in her (and thus make her see you again as a challenge).
• If this is a resentment-related issue, let it go at first. Give her time to calm down and feel the need to come back to you. If she’s still silence after that, you can eventually have a discussion with her in order to clarify things (a calm discussion, in which you show empathy but do not seek her affection).
• If this is a strategy for seducing you, there’s no need to bother. You can either wait for her to give in, or initiate contact yourself (once, without insisting if she remains silent, at the risk of causing her desire for you to decrease).
• If it’s a matter of mistrust or a desire to test you, don’t be affected and keep the interaction going as if nothing had happened. Don’t always try to fill the silent gaps, at the risk of looking like a guy who’s uncomfortable with tension (and therefore weak).
• If it’s a matter of cutting ties with you, it’s better to leave things as they are, unless you wish to reconquer her (if that’s what you want, go check out this post).
• If the silence isn’t due to you (for instance she’s tired or stressed from her day), let it go. You can eventually offer your comfort but gently, without insisting if she prefers to be left alone.
Related: Does Radio Silence Make A Woman Miss You
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